Does He Like You?

Dear Diary,

There are just so many thoughts running through my mind. Other than the usual thoughts of solving problems at work, I am beginning to think a little on my priorities for the next year. Managing people is challenging but tiring also. In fact, I wonder how long I will continue with this kind of workaholic attitude. This is not what I seek to achieve. I want a balanced life! The Sunday that just passed was relaxing and enjoyable. It had been such a long time since I really spend the entire day with my family.

I had to go for my physical training in the morning as usual, before I proceeded to church for the Eucharistic service. After which we proceeded to granny’s house for lunch. That was probably the first time we visited her since she converted to Christianity a couple of weeks back. Then we made a trip to the Expo for the last day of the John Little Sale. It was a fruitful shopping trip indeed. The last time I went to the John Little warehouse sale was about 3 years ago as a university student on a weekday morning then. I hadn’t bought many clothes since then. So this latest trip to the Expo, I bought a number of clothes and pants amounting to more than a hundred dollars.

We had a great dinner outside together as an early 25th birthday celebration for my sister before returning home to laze in front of the television and to watch the “Star Awards 2006”. This kind of a day may seem all so common and unimpressive but it felt like such a long time ago since I had this kind of “Sunday” feeling. Working has, indeed without doubt, taken a toil on my quality of life (QoL). Sometimes, I do envy people with fixed hours job. There is one locum pharmacist whom I always chat with through intranet messaging when she is working in our pharmacies.

Although she always gave me that impression that she is bored with her “eight-to-five o’clock” job, I am determined to start reclaiming back my social life. Life is more than just slogging for a career. I still have many dreams to achieve. It is hard to find a wife in my job, hahaha… Even keeping friendships seems hard. However, I am encouraged to be able to meet up with 2 groups of friends over the next 2 weeks. Meeting up with friends is just so difficult these days. Anyway, it has always been a puzzle trying to decide or guess if a girl is interested in a guy.

Guys are easier to guess. As a guy, I will share with you some tips on how to know if a guy is possibly (not 100% lah, hahaha) interested in you! =)

Punctuality:
I don’t know… but personally, I will always be very punctual when meeting with someone. If it is someone I do fancy a little, I am very likely to reach the destination at least 10 minutes earlier… just in case, she turns up early. I don’t want to keep her waiting and probably also don’t want to miss the pleasures of that extra few minutes with the girl? I hate to admit but I think so. I do not consciously think that way but maybe I do subconsciously want even those extra minutes with a girl I like!

Lack of decisiveness:
Okay, now I am with that girl. Then she ask me where we are eating. If you know me well enough… you will know that I am pretty decisive. In fact, I like making decisions because I love to plan and see it come to completion. =) However, many times when I go out with a girl that I fancy a little… I realised that I just say “whatever you like to eat or watch or… Anything is fine with me!” I guess it is not that I am a doormat or an indecisive person but just that I am prepared not to let my taste dominate the date, or to put it simply… I am not prepared to destroy my chance in courting this girl by dictating terms! I am sure many guys are similar to me and my thinking!

Decorum:
I think I have never reached this stage in my life. However… in my opinion or conjecture or presumption, a guy who sees a girl as a potential partner and not a sexual conquest, will less likely to touch the girl on a date. I think proper behaviour shows that the guy is afraid to mess things up and coming across as “flesh” motivated!

Prolonging a date:
I am guilty of that a couple of times when I feel that the girl is really interesting. You know… guys will just suggest walking a longer way to the bus-stop or the girl’s house or maybe adjourned to a café for some coffee or a walk in the park… you name it, guys think of all of them. The delaying tactics, hahaha…

Topic of discussion
Have you ever notice the kind of conversation which you talk to different friends? The acquaintances… you probably talk about superficial things like weather, sports etc. If a guy likes a girl… I am sure he will try to know her more. Ask about her family, her plans, her dreams etc. He will be genuinely interested in her and her life.

Okay, that’s all I can think of. End of bedtime stories! Goodnight!

God Bless,

Andrew